Note on previous post ...

I had to delete a comment because it went over the top with the "this is not a contest" concept.

I don't know how much more I can explain. I do not think the pain of IF is a contest. Nor am I saying one person deserves support more than another. Nor am I saying treatments are more support worthy than ttc naturally.

I thought I was ~very clear~ this post wasn't about that. Are people just skimming it and jumping to conclusions or what? (Just an fyi - I am responding to come people's comments in the comment section. I try to email you from your profile, but many of you don't have your email displayed so I can't respond.)

Here is something else to ponder ... In my experience of the subject over the years from writing about it or reading other blogs about it, the people who get seem to get offended the most and respond with the "there should be no difference between the ins/outs of ttc support" are (usually) the people who didn't go through infertility - either conceiving easily in regards to time and/or with the beginning of treatments. While I am 100% behind the fact everyone deserves support while ttc, I also believe there are differences based on each woman's personal story. It just goes to show it sometimes takes going through something to understand more of it. Which, I guess, is a very obvious conclusion.

So my question is, as an infertile, does the support of another infertile and the support of someone who doesn't know the personal pain of infertility come across as any *different?

* let me note I appreciate ~all~ support and I assume we all do. I'm not asking about the sincerity of the support or about the aspect of the actual words said in support. I am not saying one is better than the other. No way. Just wondering if you perceive any difference in either of such a good thing to even receive at all - support.